SOME FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS -WITH MELANIE HOSKIN.
WHY DO PEOPLE CHOOSE LIFE COACHING INSTEAD OF COUNSELLING?
People do choose counselling, and work well with counsellors. I have developed working relationships with counsellors, psychotherapists, psychologists and doctors, who have diverse approaches and disciplines. I believe that matching client with therapist is essential and I have a huge referral database of therapists that I trust, so that I can facilitate this.
Life coaching isn’t a new concept, so when clients attend my clinic, they are no longer surprised at how the relationship works, how goal focussed processes work, and how quickly they can see a change. I suppose the expectation has changed too, and clients feel very empowered by the process. Life coaching is a very practical process, this tends to resonate with personalities that value the need to be pro-active. Basically Life coaching, places emphasis on creating awareness, personal responsibility/strenghts, and being proactive. Counselling is a lot more analytic than life coaching, and often concentrates on past events, life coaching tends to focus on the present and the future.
WHAT DO YOU HELP PEOPLE TO OVERCOME?
People present with difficulties that they can’t figure out on their own. Often, this is because they are too close to the issue to be impartial about the navigational process of solving a problem. Often, regardless of how insignificant they think that the problem is, it can impact their lives in a profound way. Many people will present and the first thing they will say is ‘on the grand scheme of things, this isn’t really a problem’, however, difficulties are relative and should be measured in that way. I help clients who are experiencing difficulties in:
Relationships. (Personal, family, work)
Personal Development (Confidence, self esteem, behaviour)
HOW DO CLIENTS PRESENT TO YOU?
It depends on why they are coming to see me. Some feel very upset, while others just want to get an issue resolved. It’s not uncommon for some to feel a little overwhelmed as they begin to discuss why they have attended. It’s normal for people to feel overwhelmed, especially when they are getting the chance to speak freely in an environment where they aren’t being judged.
WHY DON’T YOU SEE CLIENTS ON A WEEKLY BASIS?
I see some clients weekly, however, in most cases I will only see clients every two weeks as opposed to weekly. The reason for this is because I want them to have time to process whatever strategy we have put in place, or I want to afford them the space and time to fill developmental gaps in terms of awareness.
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO SOMEONE WHO MIGHT BE NERVOUS ABOUT MAKING AN APPOINTMENT?
Most meaningful challenges seem impossible, until done. Sometimes encouraging yourself to take that first step is often the most difficult part of the process! It gets easier after that. It’s worth the effort . . . . and so are you.
WHAT MAKES YOU AN EFFECTIVE LIFE COACH?
Well, firstly, I am fully trained and insured. Life coaches need to have a developed and precise skillset. I build rapport very quickly with clients because I believe in the process.
I have developed excellent communication skills. I am experienced at reading micro expressions and I have a developed sense of intuition, along with strong empathic listening skills. This coupled with a strategic and goal orientated development plan makes my approach to life coaching extremely effective.
YOU HAVE AN EXTENSIVE REFERRAL BASE. DO YOU NETWORK A LOT?
I do. I don’t build this database through structured networking. It has evolved through meeting people and developing a genuine connection with them over time. I am a good communicator, I am transparent, this transparency in business is extremely important, as is integrity. Both are important to me, and that’s how I network. I have invited a lot of people to a lot of lunches, an even more coffee!
DESCRIBE YOURSELF IN ONE SENTENCE.
I am smart, a smart realist, a kind, smart realist, a kind, smart realist with a sense of humour!
WOULD YOU LIKE TO FINISH ON ANY PARTICULAR NOTE?
Of course! (Just a thought really….)
Life is so incredibly short. Years pass by so quickly. Our lives move forward so quickly. Our children grow up, our parents grow old and our careers develop. Throughout that process, we fall, we fail, we win and we lose. Every new chapter in our lives requires a progressive version of ourselves, so that we may navigate new challenges. That new version is what I will help you to find, and develop.
Melanie Hoskin is the founder of Life Coaching and Counselling in Dublin. Launched in 2015, specifically to help facilitate the growth of Tower Counselling & Life Strategies which was launched earlier in 2008. Life Coaching and Counselling in Dublin now facilitates a more diverse platform in terms of how clients access help, what help they need and the resources available to them before they take that step.
As a life coach and motivational speaker, Melanie has supported workshops and projects that embrace the whole concept of community and finding our place within this space. She is an advocate for social inclusion and community building. She works individually with clients at her private practices in Dublin and Cork, globally through Skype and/or phone.
She produced and presented the very popular self help show (Life Talk Live) on Dublin south FM, which is has been downloaded globally.
Melanie has also presented Purple Psychology Podcast, with resident Doctor Naoise O’Reilly, which was recently Shortlisted for the People’s Choice Podcast Awards.
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